Exh 3

 It is ok that some relationships (like close acquaintances and monogamous relationships) are exclusionary to other people. There is no bright line rule regarding permissible and impermissible exclusion. Ideally (though not a deal breaker), when particular intimate sub communities justifiably exclude someone—for the simple reason that they would cease to be the kinds of communities they are if they weren’t strictly (lime limited in size), there is clearly room for the excluded person in the broader community of which they are components. Ideally they would be welcomed/included there

When justifiable exclusion occurs, it should ideally not reflect false beliefs about or unreasonable reactions to some group of which the excluded person belongs. 

For example, perhaps A acts reasonably in deciding not to marry B because of vital differences in the ways in which B and A understand the nature of marriage, differences that might come to light from B’s membership in a certain group with a traditional view of  marital relationships in a specific way. 

But this is different from A’s deciding not to marry B either because of the fact that certain visible members of B’s group hold marital views even if (1) A does not know that B has those views or (2) B credibly denies having those views or (b) A holds to a prejudice against members of B’s group, like believing that cohabitation with a member of this group would make someone like A unclean.

From my position, I generally oppose exclusion. I make reasonable exceptions only/roughly when they don’t involve exclusion from large and relatively impersonal communities and relationships and only when they are not rooted in false beliefs or unreasonable reactions.

By saying that exclusion is morally objectionable that does not determine what counts as an appropriate solution for morally unjustifiable exclusion. It isn’t helpful or needed to justify exclusion as reasonable or morally appropriate, to be against to the use of physical force to counter exclusion. Though I believe in some rarer cases using physical force to combat exclusion is justifiable if done the right way with an eye for forcing said hierarchal systems to be destroyed quickly